Tuesday Tip!

Focus on what you can control.  There are too many things we often stress over yet can’t control.  It’s a waste of time,  your precious time.

Tuesday Tip!

Oops!  Sorry!  I only put this on my Bradbury Fitness FB page this week so here it is a couple days late:

Wishes will most likely remain wishes until you put together a plan. Do it!

Tuesday Tip!

Here is a Tuesday tip:

Focus on commitment, not motivation.
Just how committed are you to your goal? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, motivation will follow. -Inga Stasiulionyte

Have a super week!

Video-taping and swim clinic!

bradburyfitnesslogo_v4Refine your stroke with USAT All American and 5x Triathlon World Championship qualifier Mary Bradbury. Bradbury Fitness will get footage from above and below the water, from the side, front, and back as well.

When: Sunday, January 22nd
Time: Video-taping 3:45-4:25pm Clinic from 4:30pm – 5:15pm
Email us for more details: mbtri@me.com

 

Paths

We all have different paths we’d like to take during our lifetime. Some are chosen with intent, others are forced upon us. Whatever the case, most, if not all, will be bumpy on occasion. That’s life. The Bradbury path just made a major detour as Scott and I decided to take separate ones so he moved out a few months ago. It was certainly not an easy decision, especially with kids in the mix, but it was the right one for us. As we told the girls, we’ll always be a family, our structure will just be different. Going forward, our priority will continue to be the health and well-being of our kids. It’ll be a long tough road with many adjustments, but we are committed to setting good examples for our girls and ensuring they have every opportunity to get through this as best they can. We are fortunate to have much support from both families and many friends.

With a heavy heart,
Mary

Weight

Weight. It can be such a tough issue to discuss, especially with our daughters. I vowed a long time ago never to even use the word around them. I know my girls will hear about it away from home, they already have. (Lord knows we adults hear plenty about it too). A classmate shamed Court a couple years ago (yes, in 2nd grade) about eating bread. She didn’t touch any for two weeks afterwards. Last year some stranger at the grocery store told me I shouldn’t be buying yogurt as it so bad for me. Both girls have called their thighs fat. It’s so sad and frustrating as they are very fit girls. All we talk about in our home is health, never weight or how anyones bodies look. Our focus is on kindness, hard work, love, and laughter. Body shaming, whether it’s directed at ourselves or others, is a waste of time and only kills confidence. Enjoy what your body allows you to do.

It’s rare I write anything pertaining to this subject, but I found a great article which explains much of what I feel/how I think. (I also posted it on FB yesterday). Anyway, here it is:

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are — you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.
~ Sarah Koppelkam